shoutout to all the asexuals who stand strong in their sexuality even though the media tells us everyday that sex is one of the most important aspects of being human
*very quiet voice* queer spaces need to be safe for people of faith too
I don’t think about this enough. How do I make spaces more inclusive to people of faith.
By not talking about how silly and gross religion is and by…
"if she didn’t want those nudes released, she wouldn’t have taken them"
so I guess you wouldn’t mind all your friends and family seeing your smutty fanfictions and filthy text posts since you wouldn’t have made them if you didn’t want anyone to see them
Every personality disorder is different because every human is unique in his or her life experiences so I will keep this very general (symptoms will vary largely between cases). I couldn’t actually find much on here that wasn’t either related to Girl, Interrupted or that frustrated the absolute shit out of me where “Borderline Personality Disorder” (BPD) is concerned. If you, or somebody you love is suffering, here are some things that might help you to understand and help yourself/them a little better.
- Those suffering with BPD feel both positive and negative emotions like every other human. They aren’t big lumps of mental.
- In fact, people with BPD are often very idealistic and loving. However, they will feel incredibly overwhelmed by negative emotions, and, rather than experiencing some mild sadness, embarrassment or nervousness, they are more prone to intense grief, humiliation and panic. Those suffering with BPD are generally more sensitive to feelings of rejection, isolation and perceived failure.
- Before other coping mechanisms can be put in place (be than medication and/or therapy), efforts to actually manage or escape from negative emotions in a BPD sufferer can actually lead to self-harm and/or suicidal behaviour. Again, just to stress the "not mental" thing, sufferers of BPD are generally aware that they are feeling irrational, negative emotions that they can’t seem to regulate. If you love someone in this situation, the best way to tackle a worrying situation is without making them feel like they’re an outsider or alone. Like I said, those with BPD are generally prone to feelings of isolation.
- While people with BPD can and DO feel joy, they are also prone to dysphoria and feelings of mental and emotional distress. The three most common responses to these feelings are destructiveness (or self-destructiveness), feeling fragmented/lacking identity or feelings of victimisation. Within these categories, a BPD diagnosis is strongly associated with a combination of three specific states (although, they are definitely not limited to them). 1) feelings of betrayal, 2) feelings of hurting one’s self and 3) feeling out of control.
- People with BPD tend to experience emotional lability or changeability. Although that term generally suggests rapid changes between depression and elation, the mood swings in people with this condition actually occur more frequently between depression and anxiety.
- This one is important, because it can be dangerous. Impulsive behaviours are a very common side-effect of those with BPD. This includes (but is not limited to) substance, alcohol and drug abuse, eating disorders, unprotected sex, reckless spending, dangerous driving and unusual risk taking. Impulsive behaviours can also effect decisions such as quitting jobs, ending relationships, running away and self-injury. People with BPD act impulsively because it gives them immediate relief from their pain. However, in the long term, people with BPD suffer increased pain from the shame and guilt that follow such actions. A cycle often begins in which people with BPD feel emotional pain, engage in impulsive behaviours to relieve that pain, feel shame and guilt over their actions, feel emotional pain from the shame and guilt, and then experience stronger urges to engage in impulsive behaviours to relieve the new pain. As time goes on, impulsive behaviours can become an automatic response to emotional pain.
- Self-harming or suicidal behaviour is one of the core diagnostic criteria. Recovery can be complex and challenging. The suicide rate among those with BPD is 10%.
- People with BPD can be very sensitive to the way others treat them, feeling intense gratitude at perceived expressions of kindness, and intense sadness or anger at perceived criticism or hurtfulness. Their feelings about others often shift from positive to negative after a disappointment, a perceived threat of losing someone, or a perceived loss of esteem in the eyes of someone they value. This phenomenon, sometimes called splitting or black-and-white thinking, includes a shift from idealising others (feeling admiration and love) to devaluing them (feeling anger or dislike). For example, someone with BPD may create a situation in his or her mind on behalf of their loved one and then respond to them accordingly.
- People with BPD tend to have trouble seeing a clear picture of their identity. They tend to have a hard time knowing what they value and enjoy. They are often unsure about their long-term goals. This difficulty with knowing who they are and what they value can cause people with BPD to experience feeling "empty" and "lost".
- The often intense emotions experienced by people with BPD can make it difficult for them to control the focus of their attention—to concentrate.
- People with BPD may tend to dissociate, which can be thought of as an intense form of "zoning out". Dissociation often occurs in response to experiencing a painful event (or experiencing something that triggers the memory of a painful event).
Please feel free to ask/message me any questions. I don’t know everything, but I will always try to help where I can.
Children are not possessions.
Children are not accessories.
Children are not relationship band aids.
They are tiny people with the same amount of feelings as an adult.
But with less capacity to process, express and healthily contain those feelings when necessary.
Be kind to them.
otakuseer replied to your post “[[MOR]Therapy session went well! The therapist was nice and I have…”
I’m glad it went well and I really hope the second one will go great!
Ah, thank you friend!! ;v; I hope so too!
- Abusers can do nice things for people they are not abusing.
- Abusers can do nice things for people that they are abusing.
- Abusers can otherwise seem like nice, caring, supportive people when they are not actively abusing someone.
- It does not mean they’re not fucking abusers.